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Whenever people like me give the advice to end a relationship due to sexual incompatibility, there’s always a group of people screaming that bad or absent sex is something you should just endure for love. Honestly, that’s complete horseshit. Sex may not be the most important part of a committed relationship, but it’s still pretty dang important. We deserve more from our romantic relationships than martyrdom.Read More
Back in 1967, the Supreme Court of the United States of America said what we all knew: Race-based marriage discrimination is stupid and unconstitutional.
Even though that landmark decision made love across color lines legal, it didn't open the floodgates of interracial relations. In fact, according to a Pew research study, in 2010, only 8.4 percent of all marriages were interracial. A lot of people site this as evidence that we don't want to date interracially; I think it's just an unfortunate side effect of the fear, uncertainty and doubt we have surrounding race ... and a hint of laziness.Read More
Watch us record LTASEX Live ep 3 with Cunning Minx!
Let’s be straight: we all know how to be romantic….or we think we do. We all know how to act out the obvious clichés of romance. We can all buy flowers and chocolates for our significant others on Valentine’s day. We can take our date out to a candlelit dinner at a restaurant way above our pay rate and take them home for passionate, romance novel-esque sex. But that isn’t real romance; what everyone believes to be “romantic” are cliché constructs of a consumer-driven society. So, I am here to tell you 5 ways you can skip the flowers and chocolates and still be wholeheartedly romantic.Read More
HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) has been buried in misconception since the pandemic was first identified in June of 1981. To overcome the challenges caused by HIV and AIDS, it helps to clear up the mistaken beliefs that surround these illnesses. While many questions about HIV remain unanswered, researchers have studied and learned a lot. Understanding and dismissing the following myths will ensure that the transmission of the virus can be contained.Read More
I’m willing to wager the word “intimacy,” when considered, often leaves a sweet gumdrop trail of images: holding hands, sharing secrets or making love. However, I tend to translate “intimacy” in a stranger but more exciting way.
There are some specific things my girlfriend and I engage in to stay close. These things may not be orthodox but they work, and the two of us are extremely happy.Read More
I know it’s hard to believe, but I’m American. Well, I was born in China, but for the past 19 out of 20 years of my life, I’ve lived in the United States. Now, I get it--dating is hard. You’re trying to impress me, relate to me, and maybe you’re a bit nervous because of my sparkling personality. Still, nothing turns me off more than you treating me like an outsider. The worst dates I’ve been on always seem to include the casual racism of things like:Read More
When most people think of intimacy, they think only of sex. Really, intimacy is “a close, familiar, and affectionate personal relationship.” It’s connection and energy that create intimacy.
Even the most mundane activities can be intimate when you’re with the right person. These non-sexual activities will make you laugh and feel sexy but most of all bring you closer as a couple.Read More
This week on LTASEX Live, we sit down with the brilliant, gorgeous, chubby, queer porn star Betty Blac. Although this is only the second episode of LTASEX Live, Betty is actually a returning guest. Back in 2013, I had her on Let’s Talk About Sex with Courtney Trouble and a few other cast members from Lesbian Curves 2: Hard Femme. Last time she was here, we didn’t get to go too in depth, which is why I’m glad we’ve got her all to ourselves.Read More
For the premier episode of LTASEX Live we’ve got a bit of an orgy on our hands. To help me discuss everything queer, I have my co-host for this episode LTASEX’s fat, queer femme Kytara Epps of “Pegging: Great for a man, fucking awesome for a woman,” fame. Our guests, queer porn power team Shine Louise Houston and Jiz Lee.Read More
As a twenty something woman living in the city, I’ve had my fair share of shitty dates and bad sex. If it’s not the rude messages on OkCupid, it’s the lagging conversation during the date or the subpar sex afterwards that leaves you wanting something with a lot more substance. Being the sensible queer girl I am, I decided to change my straight, cis routine and offer up this good pussy to my queer brethren.
While I hadn’t dated one before, queer men now hold a special place in my heart...and vagina. Unfortunately, most people look at queer men like lepers. I have seen the queer light and I want you know why queer are fucking awesome!Read More
Sometime in 2013, I was contacted by the people behind online condom retailer Lucky Bloke. They wanted to send me some samples to see if I liked what they had to offer. While I did, in fact, really like their vibe, especially compared to some design challenged competitors, I never got around to doing a write up. Eventually, it slipped my mind completely, until a few weeks ago when I was the real lucky bloke.Read More
Many people simply look at a sex toy and assume it’s not for them. Sex toys are often marketed for one specific gender or type of sex but most are way more versatile than they seem. This list checks out some of those fun, gender neutral toys that may be just the thing you need.Read More
You snooped or stumbled across evidence your partner has been doing some things they shouldn’t online. You know what you know and you can’t un-know it. Social script dictates that knowing this information, you should righteously flail about spilling piss and vitriol. Instead of behaving like a spiteful demon, why not actually address the problem like an adult.Read More