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Experiencing new realtionship energy for the first time as a 26-year-old control freak

The past couple weeks have been eventful for me. While I was apprehensive to take a step back from LTASEX (I’m writing this only nine days into my “vacation”), it’s allowed me to live life and have some awesome new experiences.

As a 26-year-old who has never had a significant other, diving head first into a lake of new-relationship energy has been one of the most exciting.

Where I've been and where LTASEX is going

For the first time in over a month, I published a new article on LTASEX a couple days ago. Being able to press save and publish on an article that wasn’t soul draining to write was a refreshing experience. If I hadn’t taken my much-needed vacation, I may never have had that experience again.

Female condoms are fucking awesome!

Female condoms get a bad rap. People complain they’re awkward, unsightly and unsexy. I used to buy into the bad PR, but after some quality first-dick experience I can definitely say female (internal) condoms are pretty fucking great. Besides the extra cost, they’re my most favorite new thing since blow jobs. 

Sex is important or why sexual incompatibility shouldn't be suffered

Whenever people like me give the advice to end a relationship due to sexual incompatibility, there’s always a group of people screaming that bad or absent sex is something you should just endure for love. Honestly, that’s complete horseshit. Sex may not be the most important part of a committed relationship, but it’s still pretty dang important. We deserve more from our romantic relationships than martyrdom.

Why you probably don't (but should) date outside your race

Back in 1967, the Supreme Court of the United States of America said what we all knew: Race-based marriage discrimination is stupid and unconstitutional.

Even though that landmark decision made love across color lines legal, it didn't open the floodgates of interracial relations. In fact, according to a Pew research study, in 2010, only 8.4 percent of all marriages were interracial. A lot of people site this as evidence that we don't want to date interracially; I think it's just an unfortunate side effect of the fear, uncertainty and doubt we have surrounding race ... and a hint of laziness.

5 unique ways to be romantic

Let’s be straight: we all know how to be romantic….or we think we do. We all know how to act out the obvious clichés of romance. We can all buy flowers and chocolates for our significant others on Valentine’s day. We can take our date out to a candlelit dinner at a restaurant way above our pay rate and take them home for passionate, romance novel-esque sex. But that isn’t real romance; what everyone believes to be “romantic” are cliché constructs of a consumer-driven society. So, I am here to tell you 5 ways you can skip the flowers and chocolates and still be wholeheartedly romantic.

3 tired myths about HIV

HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) has been buried in misconception since the pandemic was first identified in June of 1981. To overcome the challenges caused by HIV and AIDS, it helps to clear up the mistaken beliefs that surround these illnesses. While many questions about HIV remain unanswered, researchers have studied and learned a lot. Understanding and dismissing the following myths will ensure that the transmission of the virus can be contained.

How I stay close, intimate with my sweetheart

I’m willing to wager the word “intimacy,” when considered, often leaves a sweet gumdrop trail of images: holding hands, sharing secrets or making love. However, I tend to translate “intimacy” in a stranger but more exciting way. 

There are some specific things my girlfriend and I engage in to stay close. These things may not be orthodox but they work, and the two of us are extremely happy.

5 things you should never say to an Asian girl on a date... or ever, really

I know it’s hard to believe, but I’m American.  Well, I was born in China, but for the past 19 out of 20 years of my life, I’ve lived in the United States.  Now, I get it--dating is hard.  You’re trying to impress me, relate to me, and maybe you’re a bit nervous because of my sparkling personality.  Still, nothing turns me off more than you treating me like an outsider. The worst dates I’ve been on always seem to include the casual racism of things like:

10 (non-sexual) ways to be intimate with your partner

When most people think of intimacy, they think only of sex. Really, intimacy is “a close, familiar, and affectionate personal relationship.” It’s connection and energy that create intimacy.

Even the most mundane activities can be intimate when you’re with the right person. These non-sexual activities will make you laugh and feel sexy but most of all bring you closer as a couple.

LTASEX Live: Betty Blac hanging all out

This week on LTASEX Live, we sit down with the brilliant, gorgeous, chubby, queer porn star Betty Blac. Although this is only the second episode of LTASEX Live, Betty is actually a returning guest. Back in 2013, I had her on Let’s Talk About Sex with Courtney Trouble and a few other cast members from Lesbian Curves 2: Hard Femme. Last time she was here, we didn’t get to go too in depth, which is why I’m glad we’ve got her all to ourselves.

Getting queer with Jiz Lee & Shine Louise Houston - LTASEX Live ep 1

For the premier episode of LTASEX Live we’ve got a bit of an orgy on our hands. To help me discuss everything queer, I have my co-host for this episode LTASEX’s fat, queer femme Kytara Epps of “Pegging: Great for a man, fucking awesome for a woman,” fame. Our guests, queer porn power team Shine Louise Houston and Jiz Lee.

Why I love dating queer men

As a twenty something woman living in the city, I’ve had my fair share of shitty dates and bad sex. If it’s not the rude messages on OkCupid, it’s the lagging conversation during the date or the subpar sex afterwards that leaves you wanting something with a lot more substance. Being the sensible queer girl I am, I decided to change my straight, cis routine and offer up this good pussy to my queer brethren.

While I hadn’t dated one before, queer men now hold a special place in my heart...and vagina. Unfortunately, most people look at queer men like lepers. I have seen the queer light and I want you know why queer are fucking awesome!  

Lucky Bloke saved my ass, literally

Sometime in 2013, I was contacted by the people behind online condom retailer Lucky Bloke. They wanted to send me some samples to see if I liked what they had to offer. While I did, in fact, really like their vibe, especially compared to some design challenged competitors, I never got around to doing a write up. Eventually, it slipped my mind completely, until a few weeks ago when I was the real lucky bloke.

What to do about your partner's online infidelity

You snooped or stumbled across evidence your partner has been doing some things they shouldn’t online. You know what you know and you can’t un-know it. Social script dictates that knowing this information, you should righteously flail about spilling piss and vitriol. Instead of behaving like a spiteful demon, why not actually address the problem like an adult.

Flirting, porn and other things that shouldn't be considered cheating

There are myriad ways to express one’s sexuality and many don’t require sex at all. It’s unfortunate, though, that many of those expressions are vilified as cheating in many relationships. Just because these activities are sexual and intimate doesn’t mean it’s a threat to your relationship. In fact, some are actually pretty good for your sex life and the longevity of the relationship.

Human's (abridged) guide to dating other humans

As a rule, dating advice is terrible, catchphrase riddled garbage that’s wholly unsuitable for most real world adult dating situations. In truth, most dating advice isn’t even applicable to humans at all. So, instead of rehashing the same old drivel, I thought I’d offer you a couple tips for dating actual people.   

7 queer musicians you should know

Queer muscians are everywhere these days. Since we're taking a look at all things queer this month on LTASEX, I wanted to take a look at some of the queers making noise these days.

I'm a queer, fat, femme black woman and I deserve respect

Being a feminine cis woman doesn’t seem like a revolutionary thing, but I’m not just a feminine cis woman. I’m black. I’m fat. I’m queer. I am not society’s ideal role model for anything feminine. That’s why I make it my job to change the face of femininity to make it include people like me. I’m not a prop for Miley or any other white women who want to juxtapose their femininity or sexuality.

Why I love being queer

As a kid I had no idea what being queer meant. What I did know, I learned on the playground in elementary school and that’s definitely not the queer I know now. After exploring and experiencing my sexuality for what it was, I was finally able to find out what being queer meant to me.


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Muse Massager by NS Novelties - Review

There are very fey vibrators I actually like. Sure we’ve given the Sexpert Approved seal to a few but I’ve only given my personal approval to about three in the last four years. Well, after testing out the Muse by NS Novelties, the number is now four.

Gender-neutral sex toys you should check out

Many people simply look at a sex toy and assume it’s not for them. Sex toys are often marketed for one specific gender or type of sex but most are way more versatile than they seem. This list checks out some of those fun, gender neutral toys that may be just the thing you need.

Double Delight Strap-On by Pipedream more than doubles my pleasure

I have a large tote containing a generous supply of toys.  They range from ribbed love fingers to a modest butt plug to a futuristic, translucent, vibrating dildo, and I still find myself anticipating the moment when I can open the tote, strap on Jed and ride my girl to a sunset filled with exploding orgasms. If you’re looking for something in this style, you've got a great option. 

Tantus Twist butt plug review

Tantus Twist has my vote for a fun, diverse plug. If you are interested in something apart from the basic butt plug and the shape appeals to you, this might be the twist you’re looking for. I'll be keeping this cute, little toy within hand's reach when preparing for more booty Olympics.

Tantus Purple Haze: premium silicone, reasonable price, beginners rejoice

Tantus Purple Haze is great as a first time dildo and is durable enough to last you. It won’t cost you a ton of money but offers some of the smoothest silicone you can ask for.  If you prefer smaller toys or are just getting into penetration, this might just be the toy for you.

bswish BGOOD Deluxe: big and intense - Review

All around, I found that BGOOD Deluxe by B Swish is one solid vibrator. Its power is damn fine and its touch is quite lovely. At $60,  BGOOD Deluxe would be at great buy. With its $45 price tag, it’s more like steal. 

Pulse by Hot Octopuss: Thuddy, versatile, Sexpert Approved

Bottom line: Pulse by Hot Octopuss is one extremely versatile pleasure device that takes thoughtfulness to a new level. I don’t think I’ve ever used a sex toy in any category that is able to do so much. It’s thuddy oscillation creates a unique vibration experience that my body loved. It’s even displaced the PicoBong Zizo as my go to vibe. While it’s not a toy for people who just want to beat off, it’s definitely a device for people who want to experience something awesome and new.

OhMiBod Better Than Chocolate: Music Edition will make you scream 'oh, my god'

It’s time to update your sex playlist with some banging bass lines, epic guitar solos and those make-my-panty-wet-love/lust-songs. With its beat matching pulsating pleasure between your legs, the OhMiBod Better Than Chocolate: Music Edition will have you singing out pleasure between lyrics. That is if you are even able to remember them.




Tantus Juice Plug proves more is less - Review

When I want to get really dirty, I’ve got to make sure to play with my backdoor. With its sleek design high quality, the Tantus Juice Plug is a welcome addition in my toy box and backdoor.

Betty Blac seduces, restrains Kitty Stryker: Crash Pad Series Ep 132 Review

Ever since checking out Courtney Troubles’ Hard Femme: Lesbian Curves 2, I’ve had a crush on Betty Blac. Seeing a plus size Black queer woman in porn was a fangirl moment for me. So, of course, when I set out to review an episode of porn series Crash Pad Series, I went straight to Betty’s video with another porn crush Kitty Stryker. I was not disappointed. Kitty describes this episode as the beginning of her porno romance with Betty.

Courtney Trouble's 'Trans Grrrls' know how to fuck - Review

Most of the time when you see trans girls in porn, it’s some crazy gonzo/exploitation bull. Is that all that trans girls are? No. Trans girls are real humans; they get Starbucks, take strolls through city parks and ferociously finger each other in public at Folsom Street Fair.  Well, at least in Courtney Troubles’s punk powered Trans Grrrls: Revolution Porn Style Now! they do.

Spunk Lube Pure Silicone review: slick, safe, sexy


Finding the right lube is hard. When you finally find the right one lube, it's important to hold it tight and use it often. Let's just say I'll need a new bottle of Spunk Pure Silicone lube very... very soon.


OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.0H Review


OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.0H is a vibrator that has me torn. Overall the concept is great. I love the design, the texture and the fact that it has a wireless remote control. On the other hand, the battery size for the remote is so random and inconvenient and the club mode needs some work. On the whole, OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.0H is a powerful, sleek, fairly-priced and ergonomic vibrator that may be just what you’re looking for.

Tenga Flip Hole, best male masturbator we've ever reviewed (UPDATED)

Tenga Flip Hole is easily the best male masturbator we’ve ever tested. From its simply gorgeous design to its versatile, rule-breaking, orgasm causing performance, this thing shines. If you can get past the higher-than-expected price tag, you probably can’t do any better.

Aneros Eupho SYN offers powerful prostate pleasure

Aneros EUPHO SYN is easily one of the best prostate stimulators I’ve ever put in my butt. If it wasn’t designed so differently than other stimulators, I could say it’s the best but, really, it’s in a league of its own. While I find the price to be a bit high for suck a small amount of materials, I think the price is justified by the high level of design and thought put into the device. If you like prostate play, meet your new best friend.

James Deen Signature Penis Pump brings a little luxury

Penis pumping is a very vulnerable situation. When you’re shoving your dick into a plastic vacuum chamber, you’ve got to feel confident. Whether, it’s the high quality plastics or user/penis-friendly design, the James Deen Signature Pump by Doc Johnson definitely provides a luxurious penis pumping experience.

B Swish BGEE Classic vibe makes g-spots, clits, prostates happy

In my sophomore year of college, I timidly purchased my first vibrator. It was a bright red, plastic toy, disguised as a “First Aid Kit.” Mind you, I was broke, slightly terrified and absolutely clueless of what mind blowing sensations the world of vibrators and massagers had to offer. My little, red First Aid Kit blew my mind, and I’ve been a fan ever since. You could say that I’ve become a vibrator enthusiast. That being said, BGEE Classic by B Swish has become a very well used and approved personal favorite for adult fun both on your own and with a friend... or two.

Courtney Trouble's 'Lesbian Curves 2: Hard Femme' brings 93 minutes of kinky, hot  lesbian sex - Review

Lesbian Curves 2: Hard Femme is the latest porn flick from queer porn provocateur Courtney Trouble. In Hard Femme we get to see the kinky side of femininity through the eyes of someone who clearly loves kinky fat femmes. We adored Courtney Trouble’s “Come Find Me” when we reviewed it a couple months ago. I think we can safely say that with Hard Femme, Trouble is on a hot streak.


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