An object or bodily part whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression

Masturbation seems like one of those things that doesn’t need a salesman but – believe it or not – I meet people all the time who just don’t understand why people masturbate. Since May is masturbation month, what better time to highlight the best reasons to masturbate.

I’ve been masturbating for as long as I remember. Even when I was having sex as much liked, there was always something appealing to me about masturbating. There’s something simple and innocent yet dirty, decadent and forbidden about the whole affair. Plus, it just feels motherfucking awesome.

You already know how much I love masturbation. After all the time spent spankin’ it, I’ve learned a few things. Since May is Masturbation Month, I figured it was time for me to share a bit of my masturbatory wisdom with you. We’re counting down from seven.

TS FOXXY TALKS ABOUT DATING & RELATIONSHIPS IN THIS BONUS CLIP FROM OUR EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW.

Watch our the full interview with transexual pornstar TS Foxxy.

Transexual porn superstar TS Foxxy stops by Let's Talk About Sex for a chat. In this exclusive interview, Foxxy drops some beauty secrets, answers some questions and talks about life as your average transexual next door.

This week on Let’s Talk About Sex, we have an interview with erotic fiction writer Liz Crowe. I first met her back in Dec of 2012 when I interviewed the brewery owner turned author for Between the Lines. It was great talking to her and I knew I would have to get her on the show.

We often forget about the needs of those at the top of the food chain. But if we are to make progress for women, it's necessary to make progress with men. A rising tide does raise all ships.

This week on Let’s Talk About Sex, I’m talking with my long time Twitter peep, the Sensual Cypher, Ms Hip Hop Sexpert, Paige Diamond about sex on the first date, long distance relationships and big nuts. It’s a great show, I promise.

Here on LTASEX we talk about sex but we also like to everything that goes along with sex. Of course, sexism fits right in there. It’s got “sex” right in the word! Usually when I’m talking about sexism, I’m complaining about some advertisement or TV show but today is different. Today, I get to shower a little praise and throw a little shade. This is going to be so much fun.

Today on Let’s Talk About Sex, we have an exclusive interview with transgendered porn star James Darling. In this interview we talk all about James’ porn career, transitioning on camera and what it was like to get gangbanged by unicorns. You won’t find a more interesting 20 minutes anywhere on the internet.

At a certain point we have to stop forgiving the messed up crap our brethren do. We have to make the collective decision that our women are worth fighting for and act on it. The rape, murder and sorrow of women will only continue unless we have the strength in our conviction to help them fight and bring it to an end.

This week in Quickies: Hilary Clinton Comes Out in favor of gay marriage, Joe Jonas gets spanked and videotaped, Steubenville Blows Up, Poppy Harlow is offended because we hurt her feelings.

...What if I don't like oral sex (for full-disclosure, I'm a woman)? I mean, don't get me wrong, I've had good oral. I just have no real interest in it. But my partner is very, very into giving oral. Should I just lie back and think of England until he's done?

All this drama surrounding the Steubenville rape trial got a little pissed off. So, I thought I'd make a quick video. Surprisingly, it's one of my best.

As you all know, I sometimes like to press my boundaries and try things I’ve never tried before. If you you’re a long time reader of LTASEX, you should have come across my bisexual and dating experiments, among others. Having recently fallen in love with prostate play, I figured it might be time to try an enema.

This week on Let's Talk About Sex, we have an interview with trangendered porn star, health educator and LGBT advocate Buck Angel.

Even in the year 2013, I still emails from people complaining that their partner won’t give them oral sex. So, it’s about time that I make this clear and put the topic to rest. If you are not willing to give your partner oral sex, you deserve to be dumped… probably.

When done well, masturbation can get messy. Sure, there’s towels and wet wipes to clean off your belly and a washing machine for your sheets. But what do you do when there’s a bit of friendly fire on your nearby laptop, tablet or smartphone that helped you reach your toe-curling orgasm? For those delicate and expensive gadgets, you’ll have to use a more delicate touch.

Here at LTASEX we love when sex has a soundtrack. There's something about music that really changes the mood of the room. With these 20 tracks up your sleeve, the mood should be changed enough to make sure you have a STELLAR night. Even if you're spending Valentine's Day alone, this is still a damn good playlist. Hey, even masturbation needs a soundtrack.  

I don’t know what’s tighter

His pants or my pink tiger

Her bloom begins to close around my fingers and she begs... hesitation, hesitation, hesitation.

I guess, as she put it, too much freedom can be overwhelming. I was under the impression she was too restricted....

Conditioning or not, it was a sight to behold as his strong hand, firmly, slapped her bottom, her tight rear end not budging.

The handcuffs were too tight.

He's really cute and all I can think about is taking him home, bending his thirty-something ass over my chaise and making him my ho, ho, ho but I play it cool...

...What if I don't like oral sex (for full-disclosure, I'm a woman)? I mean, don't get me wrong, I've had good oral. I just have no real interest in it. But my partner is very, very into giving oral. Should I just lie back and think of England until he's done?

While not particularly daring, Tracey Cox dare! Travel Massager is a pretty decent vibe. It’s got a unique shape that reminds me of my geeky childhood and manages to be interesting without becoming gimmicky. Not bad.

As a lady into nipple stimulation and not afraid of dipping her toe into the kinky side of life, I was thrilled to give Spartacus Y-Style Broad Tip Clamps a try. The design was sleek and sexy –just the way I like it – and they certainly got the job done.

This is the saddest review I have ever written. Boosty anal plug by Fun Factory is a toy that has so much potential for pleasure and I love almost everything about it. From the design to the color and great design, this toy is a winner. That being said, I just can’t get past its one flaw.

With masturbation sleeves, it’s really touch and go. With every sleeve, there always seems to be some sort of drawback. Sometimes they get sticky, other times they just don’t feel good. When it comes to the Mood Exciter by Doc Johnson, it’s probably the closest to perfect I’ve found thus far.

Periodically, I find a toy with a lot of promise that fails to perform due to one major flaw, 10-Function Risque by California Exotics is one of those products. It feels great, the vibrations are strong, I like the design and silicone feels pretty nice. The problem: it claims to be waterproof but it is most certainly not.

Having never tried a penis pump before, I was anxious to see what all the fuss was about. I picked out the Pump Worx Max-Precision Power Pump by Pipedream because it seemed simple enough and it is. But that simplicity comes at a cost. However, for just the right kind of person this may be a winner.

Sometimes there’s a product that’s so simple yet so brilliant that you can’t believe it didn’t exist before. The Vibrator Enhancer by Evolved Novelties is one of those products. It turns any vibrator into a toy that won’t get lost in your butt. This changes everything.

Often, people underestimate the benefits of doing one thing really well. I am not one of those people, which is why I think Posh Pocket Toyfriend by Tickler is clitoral vibe that is definitely worth a look. It serves up powerful, portable performance and a bunch of other perks that you wouldn’t expect from a toy of this class,

It’s been a mind changing week here at chez LTASEX. First I find a metal toy that makes me squeal, now I’ve found the perfect anal vibrator. Perfect, except for the fact that it’s not actually made for anal play. Regardless, Zizo by Picobong offers up some unmatched performance and easily earns the Sexpert Approved seal.

After previously reviewing a few stainless steel sex toys and being woefully underwhelmed, I’d made up my mind that they weren’t for me. That was until I put the Metal Worx Double Trouble plug in my butt and was forced to orgasm change my mind.

Lube is wonderful for a great may things but not all lube is actually great. Having tried a slew of lubes in my life, Liquid Silk by Bodywise Limited is definitely one of the best. That being said, my favorite feature is one that may not be appreciated by everyone. Regardless, it’s the best and most versatile lube we’ve ever used and would be remiss if we didn’t award it the Sexpert Approved seal.

Doc Johnson is known for being the classic American sex toy company, they make the standards and do them well. Innovation may not be their strong suit but what they do, they do well. Black Magic 7” Ribbed Vibe by Doc Johnson is no exception.

Having never tried a vibe with a cord, I was admittedly curious to try out California Exotics Couture Collection Calypso 2. It’s a good thing I followed my curiosity because it had my kitty cat was purring all night.

Lelo knows how to make a sex toy. Each of their models are simple, streamlined, thoughtful, pleasurable and aesthetically gorgeous. Ella by Lelo falls directly into that line with its Mercedes inspired curves, silky finish so smooth it feels soft – or even plush – and gender friendly versatility. While just short of perfect for me, the sum of its parts is so high that I wouldn’t feel right not giving it the Sexpert Approved seal.

Although I logically know all the ways a good lube can help sex feel better, I still usually buy the cheapest I can find. After trying out Sliquid’s Sassy Booty Gel Lubricant, that is going to have to change. I have experienced luxury and my genitals will not settle for $3 drug store garbage again.

Maybe she’s born with it maybe its earned after a hard day of work with a hot bath and a decent bottle of Trader Joe's 3.99 fermented grape juice, in a hotel room during a business trip or the bathroom during your cousins’ wedding. If orgasms are part of a good beauty regimen, Mia 2 by Lelo will give you the freshly fucked glow you’re after.  Wherever the mood strikes you, the Mia 2 will get the job done.

As much as I loved the Fleshlight Flight, I always felt like it should do more. With a flexible casing and unique styling (inside and out), the Fleshjack Sword does a bit more and it definitely made a difference. I just don’t know if I would pick it over its aerodynamic brother.

When I received the package containing the Doc Johnson Platinum Super 7”, I had never been so excited to masturbate. I bonded immediately with the massive realistic dildo, going so far as to name it after the lead singer of my favorite band. While it couldn’t exactly serenade me, the toy was near-perfect for me in many ways. Despite a few drawbacks, it definitely lived up to my high expectations.

The sex position book genre is one that is permeated by half-hearted regurgitations of the same garbage. But – every now and then – there’s one with a few ingredients the others lack, which gives you something to sink your teeth into. The sweet confection known as The Cookie Sutra, has quite a few ingredients other sex position books lack.

As a lady who typically produces enough natural lubricant to make a waterfall envious, I’ve admittedly had limited experience with lubes. That being said, I was excited to give Sliquid Organics Natural Lubricating Gel a shot. The little brown bottle boasted its healthy properties as well as its focus on women’s pleasure but does its performance live up to the hippie hype?

Everything you need to know about all the STIs/STDs (sexually transmissable infections/diseases).

As you all know, I sometimes like to press my boundaries and try things I’ve never tried before. If you you’re a long time reader of LTASEX, you should have come across my bisexual and dating experiments, among others. Having recently fallen in love with prostate play, I figured it might be time to try an enema.

While douching had been around since around 400 BC, it was between the 1920’s and 50’s where it really picked up speed and popularity. It sold faster ever before. Douche was flying off the shelves. There was douche everywhere and then there wasn’t.

People who handle balls will tell you that shaved sac is a sac that deserves some oral attention. An unshaved sac is not repulsive; it’s just that pulling ball hair out of your mouth really slows the momentum of a blow job.

For last week’s Humpday Hotties, I gave you a bunch of images of women masturbating. This week, it’s the guys’ show just how much they love jerkin’ off. Isn’t the internet just wonderful?

Happy Masturbation Month! As you may have guessed, this month's Humpday Hotties are going to celebrate the beauty of masturbation. This week, I have a collection of beautiful women enjoying some mastubatory alone time.  Yay!

I don’t know much about Ramiro Eruburu but he’s hot and prolific on the internet which makes him perfect for us.

Sure, you're sexy but are you so sexy you got deported from Saudi Arabia? Probably not but Dubai-based actor, poet, photographer Omar Borkan Al Gala -- apparently -- is and did. 

I'm not even going to pretend you're going to read this. With Lucy Pinder's life-affirming titties below, I don't blame you.

If you’re on Tumblr as much as I am, you’ve probably run across one or twelve million hotties constantly throwing up selfies. Wyatt Lane is no different, thank god.

With the new season of Doctor Who debuting a couple weeks ago, they introduced us to a new companion: Clara “Oswin” Oswald played by British cutie Jenna-Louise Coleman. While The Doctor normally travels with one attractive companion or another, his latest is definitely the hottest.

Is there anything sexier than a bunch of hot, tanned men wrestling while covered in oil? Probably not.

Late last year we introduced you to the short-but-satisfying ice cold glass of chocolate milk that is NY-based rapper Azealia Banks. Back then we were giving her props reminding the world that darker skinned beauties have just as much to offer; usually more, if we’re really measuring ASSetts. Now it’s time to get a little closer.

There’s something incredible sexy about a hot guy who is both funny and pants meltingly cute. On screen he comes across as aloof and completely confident. Plus, he is frequently in some state of undress. So, that’s fun.

...What if I don't like oral sex (for full-disclosure, I'm a woman)? I mean, don't get me wrong, I've had good oral. I just have no real interest in it. But my partner is very, very into giving oral. Should I just lie back and think of England until he's done?

Even in the year 2013, I still emails from people complaining that their partner won’t give them oral sex. So, it’s about time that I make this clear and put the topic to rest. If you are not willing to give your partner oral sex, you deserve to be dumped… probably.

He is clearly just stating a fact if you have sex with women you need to eat some pu**y. I strongly maintain that if I were to buy a car without working air conditioning then I would take it back. If I’m dating someone who doesn’t blow me, then I’m going to trade him in for a different model.

 The fact is: people will do what the hell they want to do. There is no amount of fear that’s going to stop people from making bad or unsafe decisions.  So instead of shoving blue waffle in people’s face, why don’t we simply have a rational conversation about the risks involved with sex?

This week on Let’s Talk About Sex, we have an interview with erotic fiction writer Liz Crowe. I first met her back in Dec of 2012 when I interviewed the brewery owner turned author for Between the Lines. It was great talking to her and I knew I would have to get her on the show.

This week on Let’s Talk About Sex, I’m talking with my long time Twitter peep, the Sensual Cypher, Ms Hip Hop Sexpert, Paige Diamond about sex on the first date, long distance relationships and big nuts. It’s a great show, I promise.

Today on Let’s Talk About Sex, we have an exclusive interview with transgendered porn star James Darling. In this interview we talk all about James’ porn career, transitioning on camera and what it was like to get gangbanged by unicorns. You won’t find a more interesting 20 minutes anywhere on the internet.

This week on Let's Talk About Sex, we have an interview with trangendered porn star, health educator and LGBT advocate Buck Angel.

The most offensive thing you can do to a trans person is to assume that you know their situation better than they do. Most transgendered people would rather educate than have you assume. A lot of us want to share our stories and our experiences.

Growing up I was a tomboy. I remember telling my mom, as a little kid, that I was a boy. My mom then told me that if I kept telling people that, they would forcibly institutionalize me. She has a flair for the dramatic. I kept thinking that way until I saw a therapist when I was 18.

Burlesque is all about drawing the audience in, making them want to see you as a performer. Your body becomes a prize, and anything can be presented and sold as sexy from someone a little heavier to a bottle of Pepsi. Presentation is everything.

Look, I’m excited to see another popular personality stepping out of the closet, no matter how open the doors have always been. But I’m also annoyed that he had to come out at all.

He is clearly just stating a fact if you have sex with women you need to eat some pu**y. I strongly maintain that if I were to buy a car without working air conditioning then I would take it back. If I’m dating someone who doesn’t blow me, then I’m going to trade him in for a different model.