All tagged race

5 things you should never say to an Asian girl on a date... or ever, really

I know it’s hard to believe, but I’m American.  Well, I was born in China, but for the past 19 out of 20 years of my life, I’ve lived in the United States.  Now, I get it--dating is hard.  You’re trying to impress me, relate to me, and maybe you’re a bit nervous because of my sparkling personality.  Still, nothing turns me off more than you treating me like an outsider. The worst dates I’ve been on always seem to include the casual racism of things like:

Late last week, a friend posted a link to an article entitled “White Women Do It, Too: 8 Things Black Women Can’t Get Away With,” on her Facebook page. Initially I wrote it off as another article that purports to speak to some sort of glaring racial inequality when it is really inventing and then reinforcing the damaging social stigmas and stereotypes they claim to loathe. That was until the comments on the article blew up almost immediately, jumping to well over a hundred in less than 30 minutes. After that, I figured it might be worth a read.

On the list were items like, “Walking around straight-faced,” “Speaking in a baby voice,” and “Getting a nose job.” None of those things would I agree carry any negative stigma with anyone except black women. If that was the entirety of the list, I could have left it there and been satisfied with my mystic powers of prediction. However, other items on the list included having sex on the first date, getting knocked up, and leaking a sex tape. From those three points, it was clear to me that LaShaun Williams wrote this piece as Jerome Nichols bait and well she hooked me.

Last week, we used some data from OkCupid to dismantle the myth of gay people and straight people being different. This week we're shoring up the, what seem to be, truths about the different races and regions. They randomly selected 526,000 users and seperated them by their self-defined race. They used their profile essays and identified words and phrases that were distinct.

Keep in mind that these are all just things people think that other people will like about their personalities. It is doubtful that many people would lie, but it is common to like things that other people like to feel normal. Take it with a grain of salt. You could possibly use this info as a basis for getting to know someone of a different race.

 

Let's start with white people.